2012

1. What did you do in 2012 that you’d never done before?
Took a trip to the Caribbean!

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I don’t know that I actually made any resolutions last year. I tend not to, because I tend to forget about them about approximately 4 days later. If I have any for this year, I suppose they would be to keep better track of my family. I got bogged down in work and fell behind on calling, sending cards, mailing gifts. I spent most of the end of the year (by which I mean from August on) feeling like a bad sister, wife, daughter, and aunt. I didn’t like it. I don’t want to do that again. I resolve to be a better sister, wife, daughter, and aunt.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
Nope, though we did learn that one of our friends is preggers! Congrats!

4. Did anyone close to you die?
No. Thankfully.

5. What countries did you visit?
St. Lucia. I wanted to stay there forever.

6. What would you like to have in 2013 that you lacked in 2012?
A detached single family home with a yard. Preferably with a super awesome porch and deck, though I can build the deck later if needed. Our friends just bought a really nice place with a wide screened in porch. They will be hard pressed to get me off of it when the weather warms.

7. What dates from 2012 will remain etched on your memory, and why?
March 26 when I turned 30. Because I turned 30 and had to face facts – I’m supposedly an adult now.
November 5 – our 1 year anniversary.
The rest of the year is kind of a blur of theatre, work, and one or two fantastic vacations.

8. What was your bravest achievement of the year?
RICHIE. We performed a rolling pub crawl, all female version of Shakespeare’s Richard the II. I consider it brave for a number of reasons, not the least of which I signed up to be in a cast with 18 girls. I consider it an achievement because I may have finally broken into recognition in Durham theatre. I think I’m a good actress. Obviously not the best, but good. I lack the direct training, but I have common sense. I audition and audition and seem to get nothing. LGP took a chance on me; I gave it my all, and was recognized in the local paper for one of the best supporting performances of 2012. Of the entire year. Out of all the plays that were put on. Several people were recognized, but by golly I was one of them.

9. What was your biggest failure?
The house. The current one. It actually caused a bit of tension between the huz and I, resulting in a very tearful exchange about the definition of cleaning. Which was good, and we now have a plan and thoughts and blah blah blah. I definitely let the house slip out from under us.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Nothing major.

11. Where did most of your money go?
Vacation and renovation. We took a honeymoon, a birthday trip to NOLA, a weeklong friend vacation in California, and had both of our bathrooms renovated to prepare for selling. We are broke yo!

12. What song will always remind you of 2012?
There are a couple:
Hey Jealousy
Iris
Portions for Foxes

13. Compared to this time last year are you: (a) happier or sadder? (b) thinner or fatter? (c) richer or poorer?
(a) about the same.
(b) a little thicker. Let’s just say the waist is back to double digit jeans, though I can still slide into a pair of 8s in dress pants.
(c) about the same. Maybe a little poorer. But that should be much poorer soon if we can buy a new house!

14. How did you spend Christmas?
Home alone. The afternoon was nice, but gift opening was sad and disappointing without the hoards of family. Not the gifts themselves, we got a lot of great prezzies. But then we went to the beach and that was pretty awesome.

15. Did you fall in love in 2012?
I guess not technically, though it feels like it. (CHEESE)

16. What was your favorite tv program?
Celebrity Juice, don’t judge me. Doctor Who remains a favorite.

17. What was the best book you read?
The Sabriel series by Garth Nix. A fantasy trilogy that had me far more entranced than I would have realized.

18. What did you want and get?
Not for Christmas, but I did finally upgrade to a big girl phone in 2012!

19. What did you want and not get?
House. Porch. Probably other things as well.

20. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 30. I left the country and then went to NOLA. I took 2 full weeks of me time.

21. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2012?
Non-existent. Target brand. Whatever is clean, fits, and I didn’t wear yesterday.

22. What kept you sane?
There is an assumption in this question that leaves me unable to answer. 😉

23. What political issue stirred you the most?
Those who know me know pretty well know that I don’t keep up with politics. The only thing that made my radar this year, that I can even remember, was that it was an election year. It doesn’t seem to be as exciting a year as the 2008 election, but we still have a president.

24. Who did you miss?
My family. Especially at Christmas.

25. Who was the best new person you met?
My new work friend. If anything is keeping me sane, it is the combination of Shelby at home and Mike at work. I technically didn’t meet him in 2012, but 2012 is when we were forced to be friends. 

26. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2012?
Buy all of your Christmas presents well in advance of Thanksgiving, and you will enjoy your Christmas holidays immensely more. I fully support this. I normally do, but as previously mentioned, got waaaaaaaaaaaay behind this year. Buying late stinks. And is super expensive.

It is important to maintain individuality in a relationship. Personal time and personal space are ok. Separate accounts and separate friends are ok. Communication is necessary, but the world will not end if you don’t say much one day. Trust that things will work their way out when they need to and trust that your relationship will handle it.

So that kind of sounds like Shelby and I are having troubles, which is totally not the case. We had a stressful month that neither one of us wanted to talk about, so we didn’t. We carried the burdens of our own stress individually. And then we broke down at the same time with the overwhelming weight, and even though our load was essentially doubled, it felt a little bit lighter knowing that our failure to communicate with each other had nothing to do with each other. We respect each other’s silences. And if we need each other, all we have to say is “hug and a kiss please”, and we can make it through the next hour.

27. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
Im sure there are more, better, positive lyrics, but the one that truly “pops” into my head is from Ingrid Michaelson’s Parachute. Like I said, I spent a good few months beating myself up a little bit.
“Don’t believe the things you tell yourself so late at night. You are your own worst enemy you’ll never win the fight.”